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The Discipline to be a Free Spirit

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 03/02/16

A couple years before I quit my teaching job I saw a psychic who said I was going to quit my job and become a free agent spreading hope, love and inspiration in unconventional ways. I was upset (and doubted her intuitive abilities) because I couldn’t wrap my head around how I would survive financially. She offered little in terms of comfort except to say that I was a free spirit. This actually brought up more anxiety because I was rigid, orderly, rule-oriented and controlling and although I admired 'free spirits,' I also cringed at the idea of being that wild, carefree and potentially irresponsible.

She went on to say that I did things backwards which would be a great advantage for me. She said many free spirited types who come into the world and live unstructured, unplanned, free-flowing lives often end up in midlife broke, battered and bitter because they lacked the necessary discipline and drive to get their earthly shit together. It gets harder as you get older to build structure and support systems, and change is much more difficult.

She said, 'You did it differently. You were born free but became weighted down by pain and experiences. These weights in some ways anchored you and helped you develop great strength and survival skills. You built the inner foundation and structure first. You wanted to get your feet planted firmly on the ground before letting yourself even dream of flying – a sort of full on embrace the caterpillar experience before earning your butterfly wings.'

That made sense to me, though I still had no idea how anything was going to work out – Thank God. Had I known the tests and struggles, I may not have had the courage (or insanity) to take the leap of faith and follow my less-structured blossoming heart. 

It’s been one heck of a long, often broke and sometimes bitter road since I taught my last kindergarten class in 2008. I have wanted to give up and run back to the sanctuary and security of classrooms and regular paychecks often - especially this past year. One day, I dream of being able to afford new clothes, real vacations, maybe even a house, and time to socialize and be 'normal' again. But for now I’m living moment to moment following the passions of my heart and the wisdom of my soul. The earthly knowledge and skills my mind has learned along the way are also incredibly supportive. I call the heart-mind-spirit connection the holy Trinity. They are housed within our bodies. Our greatest potential comes through cooperation, communication and collaboration - uniting as a team inside. Spirit (soul) leads the way with purpose and vision, my heart (emotions) brings the connection and passion, and my mind has the knowledge and experience to get things done in physical form. 

In consciousness and the evolution of mankind we need both sides – the disciplined, structured, hard working, sensible, logical, responsible, have-a-plan, make-your-mark ego (as in healthy ego) or human-ness. AND the free flowing, trusting, intuitive, creative, rejuvenating, spacious, gracious soul. The form and the flow. The way and no way. Efforts and Grace. Science and Spirit. Masculine and Feminine. Shadow and Light… and all the in-betweens. Through it all I have come to understand deeply one of my favorite quotes...

"It takes tremendous discipline to be a free spirit." ~Gabrielle Roth

Love & Light, 

Teri Jo

7 Ways to Find Connection in a Crazy World!

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 12/08/15

It's crazy out there! Mass shootings, terrorism, insane politicians, religious bashing, racism, hate crimes, broken homes, intense fighting and more. While some say this is one of the least violent times in history, the agenda-driven media and our ability to catch news worldwide can lead us to believe that the world is coming to an end.


And... it is. 

The material world as we know it - institutions, structures and systems built on limiting beliefs and debilitating practices of corporate greed, political corruption and patriarchal oppression are crumbling right before our eyes. These are the necessary labor pains and breakdowns before we can birth and rebuild the better world our hearts know is possible. 

But, rest assured it is coming. 
And, like it or not, we must change. 

Here are 7 ways to find Connection in these crazy times:

1)  Go back to basics - Unplug to reboot. Plug back into yourself and the simplicity of life again. Make the bed, wash your face, cook a meal, stretch, cuddle by the fire, meet a friend for a leisurely lunch, dance in the rain. Breathe. There is no urgency in Spirit. The frantic frenzy we have created through addictions to screens and information can be unraveled in a bubble bath or a walk around the lake. 

2)  Allow the breakdown - Aren't you tired of holding it all together? Looking like you know what you're doing? Pretending everything is fine? It's not healthy for us to live in denial and distraction anymore. It takes tremendous energy to keep the darkness at bay. We are in the thick of winter in more ways than one. Allow the grieving, the messiness, let the falling apart happen. Fall to your knees and beg for Grace and watch as she comes and kisses your sweet face. 

3)  Invite a Terrorist in for tea - Yes, you heard me right. I am speaking of course of your own inner terrorist. You know the one who continually finds stuff wrong with you and the world. The one who curses and condemns you, who calls you stupid and lazy, a useless waste of skin. Maybe it's more subtle talk - like how you will never be pretty enough, successful, rich or thin. Now is the time to be extra kind and gentle with yourself. The world is rough out there. The rumble is real. Right now, my room is a mess. My sleep patterns erratic. My addictions on high alert. I deeply feel what's going on and can find myself in overwhelm and sad. The last thing I need to do is go against myself when I need understanding and compassion the most. Bring loving kindness and positive self-talk to the places inside that are hurting. Mother and Father yourself in a Divine Parent sort of way (hint: with unconditional loving and endless patience). It makes a big difference to be united inside first. The outside has a way of taking care of itself when we focus on the battles going on inside and find peaceful reSOULution. 

4)  Try on a SOUL perspective - What if we chose to come here, right here and right now, in this time of history on planet earth? What if we brought with us - through our beauty, our courage, our creative genius, our powerful voice - one important peace to putting together the new and improved 'life on earth' puzzle? Regardless of your religious or spiritual belief systems, making the CHOICE to be here empowers you to be the hero of your own part of the story which then enables you to be and do the things you came to be and do. Choose to be a fountain, not a drain. 

5)  Find ways to share loving - Our greatest joy is in being used for the greater good. The more we give, the more we have to give. You have much to offer this world in need - a helping hand, a smile, a compliment, a listening ear, an idea, a poem, rescuing a kitten, hugging, holding space, donating money, feeding the homeless, planting a tree. There are a gazillion ways to give. Pick one and watch your heart expand. We wither and rot when we keep our gifts and good fortune to ourselves. This new world we are creating is based on caring and sharing, being true and kind, connecting and expanding into the whole and complete Loving we already are. We are awakening to the memory of our Authentic and Ever-Giving nature. There is more than enough. You are more than enough.

6)  Forgive Friends and Family - We need each other now more than ever. Make amends, reach out, extend the olive branch. This requires great bravery for some people are still stuck in the old paradigm and may be unable to see or embrace the Light or your loving. Do your best to find compassion and forgiveness for all who have hurt you, including yourself. We are each doing our best given our pain, defenses and lack of understanding/awareness at the time. 

7)  Remember, this too shall pass - Staying present moment to moment invites a peaceful calm. Life is meant to be lived in the now. The mind wants a long-range plan, safety, security, and to know we will be okay. It's an understandable request. But now is a time of great uncertainty and change. The more we can be present and are able to pause, the better we can see what's needed and be of service, which then elicits deeper connection, peace and love. 

Practice any or all of these to your best ability and watch the new world be born. As within, so without. As above, so below. Heaven is at hand now. Keep loving.

Hugs, 
Teri Jo

Let Go and Other Useless Advice

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 08/08/15

I hold on tight. 

I know I need to let go.

I helicopter, smother, check and double check.

I know I need to let go.

I micromanage, huff and puff, send too many emails and over-explain.

I know I need to let go.

I try to predict, control, corral and influence as much as possible.

I know I need to let go.

But how the F@#k does one really do this… 

simply by the well-intentioned advice of one's self or another?

We don’t.

Just like we don’t break up with that jerk we know is bad for us.

Or get to that job on time and keep our agreements.

Or get to bed at a decent hour so we can wake up earlier. 

Or turn off the computer and put away our phone.

Or put down that drink or that cigarette.

Or refrain from yelling at our kids.

Or stop buying shit we don’t really need.

That is… until we do.

In my arrogance and ignorance, I used to think it was so easy…

Just stop. Just change. Just breathe. Just do it. Just be it. Just say no. 

Just let go. 

Ha! It’s not easy.

And, sometimes it’s downright impossible.

I have been working in the field of social/emotional/spiritual awareness and empowerment for over 25 years now. At first, all of my obsessive study was for my own growth and development. I wanted to understand how to be a better human so I would not hurt as much as I did; So I would not feel as out-of-place in this world; So I could fit in, feel better, and maybe even be more popular and successful.

In some ways it worked. 

In others, I feel even more tuned into pain and suffering, and more ‘different’ than ever before.

However, I can say with all sincerity that I do feel better about who I am. I also feel better about the world and what I came here to contribute.

I now understand that earth is a school - a place where soul’s come to master lessons in Love, Wisdom and Compassion. It takes as long as it takes and there is no better here than there. There is no better curriculum, classroom, teacher or student either. We are all growing in consciousness at the perfect level and speed for each of our unique journeys. We each have what we need for our soul’s growth experience – whether we understand or believe this, or not.

There is no race to finish. And there is no prize or greater/lesser standing at the end either.

All of the lessons are about love. 
Everything here is Love… or an opportunity to expand in Love. 
Loving ourself and loving others… as ourselves. 

Hmmm, I have heard this somewhere before. 

This is why, no matter how well-intentioned another is, no one can ever actually free us from our karmic lessons. We must each grow through what our soul has signed up for, in our own Divine timing and perfection.  

As much as I, the helpful and busy worker bee, want to effort in this Letting Go process, it is ironic (and perfect) that there is actually nothing my mind can figure out to do to make this happen any faster than is destined to happen.

The good news in all this is that I am very aware that I will Let Go. 

It may be in writing this specific peace.

It may be as I sit singing chants at the Snatam Kaur concert tonight on my 49th birthday.

It may be as I wake up tomorrow, overwhelmed by the massive list of To Do’s for the week.

It may be on August 27th, the first day of this upcoming Teen Experience Seminar (God help me that it doesn’t take that long!)

All I really know is that I will… Let Go

And I will laugh and laugh at the part of me that felt this compelling need to hang on as long and as tight as I did. But I will do this with the sweetest and kindest amount of compassion I can find. As I write these words, I can already feel this tender loving bubbling forth now… which for me makes the whole struggle worth while… giggle… sigh.

Because let’s face it - it’s pretty rough terrain around here in this earth school. And, if we look closely, we are all growing through something.

It’s best that loving kindness lead the way.

Truly,

Teri Jo 

This SOUL NEWS Blog began September 13, 2012 because I was gonna burst from all the glorious news pouring through if I didn't express it somewhere, somehow. It is intended to uplift and inspire you to connect more with your own sacred SOUL and REMEMBER the incredible gift you are. You are the LIGHT of the world. SHINE!