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7 Ways to Find Connection in a Crazy World!

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 12/08/15

It's crazy out there! Mass shootings, terrorism, insane politicians, religious bashing, racism, hate crimes, broken homes, intense fighting and more. While some say this is one of the least violent times in history, the agenda-driven media and our ability to catch news worldwide can lead us to believe that the world is coming to an end.

And... it is. 

The material world as we know it - institutions, structures and systems built on limiting beliefs and debilitating practices of corporate greed, political corruption and patriarchal oppression are crumbling right before our eyes. These are the necessary labor pains and breakdowns before we can birth and rebuild the better world our hearts know is possible. 

But, rest assured it is coming. 
And, like it or not, we must change. 

Here are 7 ways to find Connection in these crazy times:

1)  Go back to basics - Unplug to reboot. Plug back into yourself and the simplicity of life again. Make the bed, wash your face, cook a meal, stretch, cuddle by the fire, meet a friend for a leisurely lunch, dance in the rain. Breathe. There is no urgency in Spirit. The frantic frenzy we have created through addictions to screens and information can be unraveled in a bubble bath or a walk around the lake. 

2)  Allow the breakdown - Aren't you tired of holding it all together? Looking like you know what you're doing? Pretending everything is fine? It's not healthy for us to live in denial and distraction anymore. It takes tremendous energy to keep the darkness at bay. We are in the thick of winter in more ways than one. Allow the grieving, the messiness, let the falling apart happen. Fall to your knees and beg for Grace and watch as she comes and kisses your sweet face. 

3)  Invite a Terrorist in for tea - Yes, you heard me right. I am speaking of course of your own inner terrorist. You know the one who continually finds stuff wrong with you and the world. The one who curses and condemns you, who calls you stupid and lazy, a useless waste of skin. Maybe it's more subtle talk - like how you will never be pretty enough, successful, rich or thin. Now is the time to be extra kind and gentle with yourself. The world is rough out there. The rumble is real. Right now, my room is a mess. My sleep patterns erratic. My addictions on high alert. I deeply feel what's going on and can find myself in overwhelm and sad. The last thing I need to do is go against myself when I need understanding and compassion the most. Bring loving kindness and positive self-talk to the places inside that are hurting. Mother and Father yourself in a Divine Parent sort of way (hint: with unconditional loving and endless patience). It makes a big difference to be united inside first. The outside has a way of taking care of itself when we focus on the battles going on inside and find peaceful reSOULution. 

4)  Try on a SOUL perspective - What if we chose to come here, right here and right now, in this time of history on planet earth? What if we brought with us - through our beauty, our courage, our creative genius, our powerful voice - one important peace to putting together the new and improved 'life on earth' puzzle? Regardless of your religious or spiritual belief systems, making the CHOICE to be here empowers you to be the hero of your own part of the story which then enables you to be and do the things you came to be and do. Choose to be a fountain, not a drain. 

5)  Find ways to share loving - Our greatest joy is in being used for the greater good. The more we give, the more we have to give. You have much to offer this world in need - a helping hand, a smile, a compliment, a listening ear, an idea, a poem, rescuing a kitten, hugging, holding space, donating money, feeding the homeless, planting a tree. There are a gazillion ways to give. Pick one and watch your heart expand. We wither and rot when we keep our gifts and good fortune to ourselves. This new world we are creating is based on caring and sharing, being true and kind, connecting and expanding into the whole and complete Loving we already are. We are awakening to the memory of our Authentic and Ever-Giving nature. There is more than enough. You are more than enough.

6)  Forgive Friends and Family - We need each other now more than ever. Make amends, reach out, extend the olive branch. This requires great bravery for some people are still stuck in the old paradigm and may be unable to see or embrace the Light or your loving. Do your best to find compassion and forgiveness for all who have hurt you, including yourself. We are each doing our best given our pain, defenses and lack of understanding/awareness at the time. 

7)  Remember, this too shall pass - Staying present moment to moment invites a peaceful calm. Life is meant to be lived in the now. The mind wants a long-range plan, safety, security, and to know we will be okay. It's an understandable request. But now is a time of great uncertainty and change. The more we can be present and are able to pause, the better we can see what's needed and be of service, which then elicits deeper connection, peace and love. 

Practice any or all of these to your best ability and watch the new world be born. As within, so without. As above, so below. Heaven is at hand now. Keep loving.

Teri Jo

Let Go and Other Useless Advice

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 08/08/15

I hold on tight. 

I know I need to let go.

I helicopter, smother, check and double check.

I know I need to let go.

I micromanage, huff and puff, send too many emails and over-explain.

I know I need to let go.

I try to predict, control, corral and influence as much as possible.

I know I need to let go.

But how the F@#k does one really do this… 

simply by the well-intentioned advice of one's self or another?

We don’t.

Just like we don’t break up with that jerk we know is bad for us.

Or get to that job on time and keep our agreements.

Or get to bed at a decent hour so we can wake up earlier. 

Or turn off the computer and put away our phone.

Or put down that drink or that cigarette.

Or refrain from yelling at our kids.

Or stop buying shit we don’t really need.

That is… until we do.

In my arrogance and ignorance, I used to think it was so easy…

Just stop. Just change. Just breathe. Just do it. Just be it. Just say no. 

Just let go. 

Ha! It’s not easy.

And, sometimes it’s downright impossible.

I have been working in the field of social/emotional/spiritual awareness and empowerment for over 25 years now. At first, all of my obsessive study was for my own growth and development. I wanted to understand how to be a better human so I would not hurt as much as I did; So I would not feel as out-of-place in this world; So I could fit in, feel better, and maybe even be more popular and successful.

In some ways it worked. 

In others, I feel even more tuned into pain and suffering, and more ‘different’ than ever before.

However, I can say with all sincerity that I do feel better about who I am. I also feel better about the world and what I came here to contribute.

I now understand that earth is a school - a place where soul’s come to master lessons in Love, Wisdom and Compassion. It takes as long as it takes and there is no better here than there. There is no better curriculum, classroom, teacher or student either. We are all growing in consciousness at the perfect level and speed for each of our unique journeys. We each have what we need for our soul’s growth experience – whether we understand or believe this, or not.

There is no race to finish. And there is no prize or greater/lesser standing at the end either.

All of the lessons are about love. 
Everything here is Love… or an opportunity to expand in Love. 
Loving ourself and loving others… as ourselves. 

Hmmm, I have heard this somewhere before. 

This is why, no matter how well-intentioned another is, no one can ever actually free us from our karmic lessons. We must each grow through what our soul has signed up for, in our own Divine timing and perfection.  

As much as I, the helpful and busy worker bee, want to effort in this Letting Go process, it is ironic (and perfect) that there is actually nothing my mind can figure out to do to make this happen any faster than is destined to happen.

The good news in all this is that I am very aware that I will Let Go. 

It may be in writing this specific peace.

It may be as I sit singing chants at the Snatam Kaur concert tonight on my 49th birthday.

It may be as I wake up tomorrow, overwhelmed by the massive list of To Do’s for the week.

It may be on August 27th, the first day of this upcoming Teen Experience Seminar (God help me that it doesn’t take that long!)

All I really know is that I will… Let Go

And I will laugh and laugh at the part of me that felt this compelling need to hang on as long and as tight as I did. But I will do this with the sweetest and kindest amount of compassion I can find. As I write these words, I can already feel this tender loving bubbling forth now… which for me makes the whole struggle worth while… giggle… sigh.

Because let’s face it - it’s pretty rough terrain around here in this earth school. And, if we look closely, we are all growing through something.

It’s best that loving kindness lead the way.


Teri Jo 

Freedom Sucks!

by Teri Jo Wheeler on 07/09/15

Ha! A couple years ago I wrote a blog called ‘Freedom Rocks’

In this moment I’m struggling to find gravity and grounding

in all the freedom I have so effectively created for myself.

I don’t work a regular 8-5 job anymore

I’m not married (except to myself ;)

I don’t have any kids (except my inner child)

I do not own a home or any property

I don’t have a dog, a cat or a fish

Heck, I don’t even own a plant.

We all know the beautiful blessings these experiences can bring - a sense of safety, security, belonging, love, value and purpose.

And, some part of me (my soul) knew that this time around I had to create a life free from identifications and attachments. For as much as these things can bring reward, stability and foster growth, they can also become our greatest burdens, restrictions, and potential breeding grounds for the ego’s fears, insecurities, greed and entrapment games… if we are not careful. 

In many ways, I have created an unfettered life - out of the system and ‘off the grid’ as some folks say. It is a life that I quite enjoy. A heartfelt, 'high-involvement, low-attachment' life.

I nanny part time. Coach a few clients. Volunteer for some stuff. Take classes. Write and share supportive resources and messages. Facilitate workshops. Hold monthly events and put on an epic Teen Self-Discovery event once a year… so far.

My social life consists of 1-2 weekly coffee dates with various friends; Walks to Greenlake, the local yoga studio or a grocery store; And a trip to church or something spiritual about once a week. Occasionally, I watch a movie. It’s pretty simple.

I stay up late. I’ve always been a night owl. I wake up without an alarm and usually don't require much sleep. I set my work hours, which are excessively long and include weekends. I get few breaks, rare vacations, no benefits, and very little pay. Financially, I am in survival mode much of the time. This part kind of sucks… okay, it really sucks… for now.

That said, I have no doubt that I am on the right path.

Surely there is something to be said about having the safe and secure parameters of home, family, career, and steady paycheck. And, sometimes I am sad about what I have sacrificed for “the vision.” I am not saying this for a pity party, I know it was my choice… on some level. 

And, I also know I didn't REALLY have another choice. I have been fueled by a vision 'to leave the world a better place than I found it' for much of my life. This vision relates to children and teens, families and systems, connection and communication, love and belonging, a sense of safety and security, and a feeling of HOME. Ironically, much of what I could not have for myself this lifetime is what I help create for others. There is a bitter-sweetness to this. And, I know it's what my Soul signed up for this time around. 

I am armed with a heart full of grace, endless ideas and SOULutions, inspirational tips, tales and tools galore… and very little to show for it in the material realm. 

Most of the time I am happy. And, always... I am true.

I am highly enthusiastic, responsible and committed. And, right now, I’m feeling overwhelmed with too many ideas and choices related to the vision.

Much is happening fast with more on the way. I can feel it. And, truth be told, I am a bit (maybe a lot) scared. I'm not sure how things will unfold, what I can let go of and how… and how to get to any of the next steps. This makes me feel quite uncomfortable. It's sometimes much easier when someone tells you what to do and how to do it. 

Thankfully, with this ever-expanding freedom, my Soul is right here with me expanding too. 

The only prayer that seems to be left now is "Make Me Ready"and I say it everyday :) 

Liberatingly Yours, 

Teri Joy

This SOUL NEWS Blog began September 13, 2012 because I was gonna burst from all the glorious news pouring through if I didn't express it somewhere, somehow. It is intended to uplift and inspire you to connect more with your own sacred SOUL and REMEMBER the incredible gift you are. You are the LIGHT of the world. SHINE!